I have been with my boyfriend for five years and he still wusses out when I ask him to pick me up some tampons at the store. He either makes an excuses or "forgets them" or "did not see my text in time" when I ask for them while he is out. What is his damage? Why is he so afraid?
You have a real Tampon Tool on your hands. If you and your boyfriend were five weeks in and he was 13 years old, I could let it slide, but it has been years. It's just cotton. It's not like he's buying you a dildo.
I don't know why your boyfriend is afraid to buy your tampons. I really can not answer it. Maybe when he was in high school, he got his ass kicked in the parking lot and had to run inside with a bloody nose. Then, that cute girl he was too nervous to crush on helped him out by stopping the bleeding with a tampon from her purse? Maybe he had a father who refused to buy tampons for his mother? I don't know his damage, but it's obviously something heavy. And most likely, fixable.
There are women who still walk down the feminine hygiene aisle with this movie-style fear that the cashier will get on the loud speaker and price check their "Ribbed for Her Pleasure" condoms and lavender panty liners. It's stupid, but it's there. Some people figure things out slowly and the fact that tampons are not embarrassing at all, is one of the big ones.
Without a period your boyfriend would not have been born. His mother needed to mensturate to know that she had uterus, and that she could get impregnated and grow him inside of it. Maybe that's just it? Tampons are associated with motherhood, life, birth? Maybe his mom forced him to walk down to the CVS every cycle and buy her the Super Pack, while all his friends were playing Donkey Kong? Maybe one day his buddies busted him walking home, sans bag, with the box?
My advice it just ask him what his problem is. And if he keeps his lips zipped, then start with a little aversion therapy. Start leaving OB's on his pillow, like it's a hotel chocolate. See how bad he panics. You may have a reality show on your hands.
I have this solid fuck buddy thing going on with this girl and I want to turn into the real thing but I am afraid I will ruin what we have. How do I approach this without losing out? What do I do?
The whole idea of a "fuck buddy" seems dated. I come from a generation that hung on the fringe of courtship, but now, most relationships start with a text, peak with sex, and peter out with a sub tweet. (For those of you who were born before 1985, a sub tweet is when someone posts about a particular person with malice or criticism without actually mentioning the culprit by name. Usually most of the user's audience is aware who they are referring to.) Generally, Millennials fuck fast and date slow. Fuck buddies are abound, but rarely labeled as such. Aren't we all just fuck buddies?
If you want to break the awesome roll you have going and make a move for the "real thing" then realize that you may those this whole thing. Even when you go from friends to sex, you have put a burden on that friendship. The risk is simple: you may never go back to the friendship you had before because you have had sex. Is it worth the risk to destroy what you guys have going right now and risk the relationship? If you think it is, I say go for it.
Do you spend the night after sex? Do you hang out before or after fucking? Do you talk in bed? Does it feel as though you already have this special thing happening even if it never leaves your apartment? If you answered yes to these questions then maybe you have a shot and I say go for it. Ask her out on a date. Don't do anything too big or intimidating, but just ease into it. Offer to make her dinner and watch a movie. Keep it at the home base, since that is what is familiar, and then tell her how you feel. Baby steps. You can do this. The chances are that she likes your company too, if she wants to cuddle with you after sex, listen to you tell stories about your job and knows the details of your life. However, if she fucks and runs like she's god damn Liz Phair, then you may just be her boy toy. I highly doubt it. Or else you wouldn't be interested.
You can do this. Don't be timid. Get what you want. And if you don't, there's always that black hole called Tinder.
